LIBRA 2 How can you understand and recover from a breakup/divorce?
LIBRA
How can you understand and recover from a breakup/divorce?
LIBRA 2
Early on after a divorce, Libra, it can be very challenging to see the bright side of things. It’s important to acknowledge the losses and grief because they are genuine. To recover more quickly and create a solid, healthy life after separation, try to be as optimistic as you can in your thinking and life decisions. It’s normal to begin analyzing your physical features and personality attributes, wondering what could possibly be wrong with you that someone might fall out of love with you if your partner started the break-up. Instead, think in the opposite way. Instead of focusing on the traits you lack, focusing on what you truly value about yourself and what you provided to the partnership.
You must emphasize your favorable traits as a Libra. When you get dumped, it’s simple to feel sorry for yourself. Take out a pen and paper or your Notes app and write it down in black and white to remind yourself how extremely deserving of love you are. Make a list of qualities that describe your character, emotional prowess, skill set, and other qualities that are valuable in a relationship. If you’re struggling for inspiration, ask your closest friends and family for help. They would be more than happy to list all the reasons they consider themselves blessed to have you in their lives. Put your network to use. Spending time with wonderful pals you may not have seen as often when you were paired off is ideal after a breakup. If you’ve neglected your friends or family, invite them to explore new areas with you or resume any traditions that may have been abandoned. When you’re creating new memories with your loved ones, it’s difficult to wallow.
Avoid trying to rebound, Libra. Rebounds offer a fast boost that will temporarily make you feel sexy or valuable, which is why they are cliche. But after that rush wears off, you might only feel bad. After a rebound, many people express regret because their investment was insignificant, while others put their emotions on the line. Avoid having bangs Hey, we understand. When a relationship ends, you want to take drastic action, but put down the scissors (or whatever your coping mechanism of choice might be). Making rash judgments indicates that you are looking for a solution to stave off the unpleasant emotions that come with losing someone you care about. Recognize the pain and realize that handling it is a necessary part of being a responsible person. Be prepared to endure the suffering.
You can also go on a (realistic) trip down memory lane. When your thoughts inevitably stray and you begin remembering all the enjoyable times you two shared, you probably neglect to account for the unpleasant experiences. You’re familiar with the meaningless arguments, lifestyle disparities, and small arguments that plague every relationship. Your first impression might be, “Oh, that trip was so ideal.” Recall the dispute you two had on the flight there, which caused you two to go 24 hours without speaking to one another. Recall how anxious you used to be before every vacation because your spouse never arrived at the airport on time. To put it another way, intentionally introduce the negative information because your mind will just reinforce it. Keep the image truthful. You may find it easier to look for a new arrangement that doesn’t have the same drawbacks if you recall what the entire relationship was truly like. Detox from social media. Unfollowing your ex-partner won’t completely rid your timeline of their presence, especially if you have a large number of mutual acquaintances. Limit your social media use while the wound is still somewhat raw if you don’t want to see their face every time you check on. Of course, it doesn’t mean you won’t occasionally feel the temptation to check out their profile. Prepare a list of items you can “check up” on whenever you feel the want to monitor their online behavior. Call your parents or check on your frazzled buddy who just had a baby. Refrain from engaging in gossip. Your well-meaning friends could be tempted to spread any juicy rumors about what your ex is up to while you’re doing everything you can to maintain distance. Fixating on them won’t help you move on, despite the fact that it could feel like you’re scratching an itch in the moment. Therefore, take the initiative to inform your network that you don’t want to know and that it is best if they keep the information to themselves.