LIBRA 2 What do you think about long-distance relationships?
LIBRA
What do you think about long-distance relationships?
LIBRA 2
Keep in mind that some days will be fine, Libra. You’ll just go about your daily business as usual: go to work, meet up with pals for drinks, walk the dog, and exercise daily so you look good when you finally meet. But there will also be bad days. There are certain days when all you want to do is embrace your agony and loneliness and stay in bed. Days when you sincerely doubt your choice: “Is it worthwhile? Why am I acting in this way? On the night before you depart, your thoughts will shift from intensely happy times spent together to terribly gloomy ones, such as, “Will I survive another separation? I’m not sure how much longer my heart can be broken before it finally snaps!
The persistent underlying ambiguity of everything is one of the factors that kills long-distance relationships for a Libra. One’s thoughts may be dominated by the questions at the top. You’ll ask yourself, “Is this all worth it?,” when you’re uncertain. Does she still feel the same way she did previously about me? Is he meeting other girls in private without my knowledge? “Am I being silly with this stuff? I may not realize that we are a terrible match for one another. These uncertainties have a greater potential to develop into verifiable existential crises the longer you are apart. That’s why it’s essential to constantly have a date that you both look forward to in order to make any long-distance relationship work. This will typically be your mutual next opportunity to see one another. However, it can also be other significant life events, such as applying for jobs in the other person’s city, looking at residences where you could both be content, or going on a trip together, for example. The sooner you stop having anything to look forward to, the more difficult it will be to keep your optimism and passion for one another intact. 2 All relationships have one thing in common: if they’re not evolving, they’re dying. Furthermore, in a long-distance relationship, progress is much more important. You must be working toward some objective as a team. You must always be motivated by a common goal. On the horizon, there must be a convergent trajectory. If not, you’ll surely start to drift apart.
Humans have an interesting psychological quirk that prevents us from seeing one other honestly when we are apart, Libra. We begin to make all kinds of assumptions or judgments that are frequently either overstated or wholly incorrect when we are separated from one another or have limited exposure to a person or situation. Other times, people become so highly critical and neurotic that any minor setback could spell the end of the relationship. The relationship is ended since their partner misses their regular Skype conversation because of a power outage, and he or she has finally stopped thinking about them.
Or, some people take the opposite path and begin to idealize their relationship as being flawless.
5 After all, it’s simple to forget about all the small annoying aspects of your partner’s personality if they aren’t right in front of you all day, every day. It feels fantastic to think that “the one”—your ideal partner—is out there, and that the only thing separating you from them are these annoying practical issues. All of these absurd delusions serve no useful purpose. 6 I’d change the proverb “absence makes the heart grow fonder” to “absence makes the heart freaking insane.” Watch out. It’s crucial to keep some skepticism toward your own feelings when you’re caught in a long-distance situation. Remind yourself that you truly have no idea what is going on and that talking to your spouse about how you both feel at any given time is the greatest thing you can do.
